The Protest-Withdraw Pattern: Unraveling Emotional Disconnect in Relationships
This article was originally published on Healing Moments Counseling. Meet Sarah and Alex – a young, multicultural couple in their late twenties who recently moved to Seattle, Wa seeking new opportunities. Sarah, a software engineer, and Alex, a marketing specialist,…
The Blame Game: Attachment Dynamics in Conflict
In the intricate dance of romantic relationships, an intriguing yet often distressing pattern emerges – the “Blame Game” dynamic. This complex interplay involves partners striving for connection and validation through confrontational tactics rather than embracing vulnerability. The question that inevitably…
The Avoid-Avoid Dance: Overcoming Attachment Fears
A unique pattern emerges when partners grapple with emotional avoidance – a strategy characterized by sidestepping confronting feelings or conflicts directly. This avoidance, sometimes cloaked beneath a veneer of tranquility, can inadvertently create a gulf of distance between partners, both…
Relationship Disconnection: Unraveling the Attachment Cycle
In the intricate web of human relationships, delving into the attachment bonds that weave our interactions is key to unlocking secure relationships. Within emotionally focused couples therapy, we often encounter reoccurring attachment cycles—a pattern that can act as a virus,…
The Attachment System: Creating Secure Bonds
“Love makes us who we are, and who we can become.” – A General Theory of Love Take a moment to reflect: How do you typically respond when feelings of insecurity or unfulfillment arise in your relationship? Do you withdraw,…
The Make it or Break It Skill of Relationships
“Communication has the power to bring couples together and the means to push couples apart.” – Olson, Olson-Sigg, and Larson, The Couple Checkup In the intricate dance of love and partnership, communication stands as the orchestrator of harmony or the…
How to Make Love Last: Episode #53
In this episode, I joined Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz on the Stronger Marriage Podcast to discuss relationship stability strategies. I discusses the profound effectiveness of Emotion Focused Therapy in the stabilization of relationships. In addition, I recognized the benefits…